i should start back being a daily stoner tbh. this weekender thing has really put me onto how much just free space i used to fill w/ weed. now my mind wanders a lot.
By domino Go To Posti should start back being a daily stoner tbh. this weekender thing has really put me onto how much just free space i used to fill w/ weed. now my mind wanders a lot.Or go help in homeless shelters or do other volunteer work to help give you that sense of satisfaction you are missing.
By Kibner Go To PostOr go help in homeless shelters or do other volunteer work to help give you that sense of satisfaction you are missing.Hedonism might not be exactly a cure to his problems
By domino Go To Postyall ever get in a mood where damn near everything annoys/angers you?Oh God yes. Been in one of them moods all week. Small stuff or stuff that you usually brush off just starts getting to you. Like a gnat or mosquito that keeps buzzing in your face until you wildly swat at it.
By domino Go To Postyall ever get in a mood where damn near everything annoys/angers you?
Nope never
seriously everything and everybody annoys me
By Apollo Go To PostNope never
seriously everything and everybody annoys me
at least we don't' steal your tacos
By domino Go To Postyall ever get in a mood where damn near everything annoys/angers you?
Yep,
These past few months made my misanthropy flare up like a wildfire
By domino Go To Postyall ever get in a mood where damn near everything annoys/angers you?if you wanna teach in NC you're gonna need to be superman
- work is going well, but things just aren't happening as quickly as i like/need them to. it's out of my control since im tied to school/university budget calendars but it's still frustrating
- really haven't been motivated to workout, practice yoga or play soccer lately and i think something is wrong w/ my left shoulder.
- social life is back in that weird space where all my relationships feel like they're only in one direction rather than reciprocal.
- cant get more than 3 hours of sleep in one go. usually end up waking up for like an hour or two in the middle of the night. this is probably the reason everything is getting to me lately.
and then lately i've been feeling a calling to pursue teaching, despite all of my hangups about our educational system (especially in NC lol).
it's just something i feel like i'd be great at and could actually contribute something worthwhile and fulfilling.
you can find helpful purpose without actually doing the typical 'helping' stuff. i was in the same boat then realized you can get that satisfaction doing a LOT of different things. removing douchebags from the equation here and there definitely does it for me. no need to box yourself into something you'll be uncomfortable with. hell, you could even coach or join some after school development type of deal...
teaching in NC pls dont
also you KNOW your crowd is shit. you been known this domino. i don't even know your people but i am not wrong
By YungMagus Go To PostYep,
These past few months made my misanthropy flare up like a wildfire
This winter has had mine breaking the meter. Spent way to much on green, these past few months, because of it. Lol
By DY_nasty Go To Postif you wanna teach in NC you're gonna need to be supermanIf I taught in NC 2 things will happen and I'd end up on the news for either of them.
you can find helpful purpose without actually doing the typical 'helping' stuff. i was in the same boat then realized you can get that satisfaction doing a LOT of different things. removing douchebags from the equation here and there definitely does it for me. no need to box yourself into something you'll be uncomfortable with. hell, you could even coach or join some after school development type of deal…
teaching in NC pls dont
also you KNOW your crowd is shit. you been known this domino. i don't even know your people but i am not wrong
-I'd choke a kid up
- I'd have a meltdown and go on a tirade in the middle of class
I've been having a lot of suicidal thoughts again. Not like I'm saying I'm going to do it but I've been thinking about the idea of suicide a lot lately . That I don't have much keeping me here . The one thing I care about above all others has her own issues and it's not some high school shit. I've been suffering from separation anxiety for months with it . But even outside of that I'm such a late bloomer that I feel like I'll never catch up and rather than feeling sad I just kind of feel nothing . The last time I felt this way I was at least really sick
By data Go To PostI've been having a lot of suicidal thoughts again. Not like I'm saying I'm going to do it but I've been thinking about the idea of suicide a lot lately . That I don't have much keeping me here . The one thing I care about above all others has her own issues and it's not some high school shit. I've been suffering from separation anxiety for months with it . But even outside of that I'm such a late bloomer that I feel like I'll never catch up and rather than feeling sad I just kind of feel nothing . The last time I felt this way I was at least really sick
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
Contact them. They’re there to help
By Apollo Go To Posthttps://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
Contact them. They’re there to help
Definitely.
We can be a form of support here, but none of us are trained to handle something like that.
By s y Go To PostYou take meds?I don't . I've been thinking about finally seeing my doctor about recommending me for counseling . I know both my mom and dad take medication for depression
It's not my business telling you what to do, but I'd definitely book an appointment with a doctor/psychiatrist ASAP.
Even though it sounds like the cliché of clichés... You're not alone in feeling like this. Trust me.
Don't be afraid to ask for help - whether that'd be professional or not.
Even though it sounds like the cliché of clichés... You're not alone in feeling like this. Trust me.
Don't be afraid to ask for help - whether that'd be professional or not.
By data Go To PostI don't . I've been thinking about finally seeing my doctor about recommending me for counseling . I know both my mom and dad take medication for depressionYeah, it looks like depression can be hereditary, so definitely go do that. I hope you find the help you need and get well soon!
By reilo Go To PostHedonism might not be exactly a cure to his problemsAt least it might smell better than weed
I hope you get the help that you need Data. Seems like you already know to speak to your doctor. You've already taken a big step in even acknowledging your sense of self.
It's a brave new world. We got vapes for that.
By Facism Go To PostAt least it might smell better than weed
It's a brave new world. We got vapes for that.
Done killing myself for people who don't matter
You ain't talking to me anymore? That's cool.
Work ain't Done? Whatever I'm going home .
Not trying to get any more gray hairs than I already have
You ain't talking to me anymore? That's cool.
Work ain't Done? Whatever I'm going home .
Not trying to get any more gray hairs than I already have
By data Go To PostDone killing myself for people who don't matterYeah. Work to live. Don't live to work.
You ain't talking to me anymore? That's cool.
Work ain't Done? Whatever I'm going home .
Not trying to get any more gray hairs than I already have
By RobNBanks Go To PostDamn man one of the supervisors at my job died yesterday in a motorcycle accident.:| That comes at you fast.
By giririsss Go To PostYeah. Work to live. Don't live to work.Says the commie with strict overtime pay rules foh
By reilo Go To PostSays the commie with strict overtime pay rules fohMake America Average Again.
had to sit here and distract a baby while my cousin and her husband had World War 47. i only visit 2 or 3 times a year because every time i do they argue or the 10 year old has some crazy meltdown every day because he cant follow the simplest of instructions. i cant imagine how often they get into it the other 350 days of the year.
kinda dont understand why they ever got married. or had a 2nd kid. but shit happens i guess.
kinda dont understand why they ever got married. or had a 2nd kid. but shit happens i guess.
It sucks being that kid. Especially if you have a younger sibling and are trying to keep them away from the fighting. I know. :(
if it isnt the mom and the husband, its one or the other vs the 10 yo. i love the kid, on his good days, but he is a pure hellion 6/7 days of the week.
its really not his fault cause they let him get way too much slack early and they arent consistent with him and he knows they're an easy touch. i do wish i was around more as he's finally taken an interest in sports and he's begging me to play soccer w/ him all the time (apparently he's a good defender) even though he doesnt understand i live like 4 hrs away. his pops is too lazy to help him there and his uncle (my other cousin) is too busy w/ work (breh got 3 jobs) to help him get better.
its really not his fault cause they let him get way too much slack early and they arent consistent with him and he knows they're an easy touch. i do wish i was around more as he's finally taken an interest in sports and he's begging me to play soccer w/ him all the time (apparently he's a good defender) even though he doesnt understand i live like 4 hrs away. his pops is too lazy to help him there and his uncle (my other cousin) is too busy w/ work (breh got 3 jobs) to help him get better.
By domino Go To Postif it isnt the mom and the husband, its one or the other vs the 10 yo. i love the kid, on his good days, but he is a pure hellion 6/7 days of the week.
its really not his fault cause they let him get way too much slack early and they arent consistent with him and he knows they're an easy touch. i do wish i was around more as he's finally taken an interest in sports and he's begging me to play soccer w/ him all the time (apparently he's a good defender) even though he doesnt understand i live like 4 hrs away.
If he is a defender, make sure to show him how to defend properly.
Here is a fine example of how to defend.
Sure sucks for the kid. Hopefully his interest in sports can be a positive channel for him
By data Go To PostI don't . I've been thinking about finally seeing my doctor about recommending me for counseling . I know both my mom and dad take medication for depressionDude. I’m telling you, cognitive behavioural therapy, 85% success rate vs. depression. It’s the gold standard of contemporary psych. It’s just talking through and taking apart the patterns of thinking that produce depressive thoughts.
By livefromkyoto Go To PostDude. I’m telling you, cognitive behavioural therapy, 85% success rate vs. depression. It’s the gold standard of contemporary psych. It’s just talking through and taking apart the patterns of thinking that produce depressive thoughts.Yeah, do the therapy first and then medication if it doesn't work.
By Kibner Go To PostYeah, do the therapy first and then medication if it doesn't work.Even if it doesn’t work out, there are plenty of other therapeutic modalities and interventions. Psychodynamic therapies, mindfulness practice, art therapies, even just the right kind of diet and exercise can do a ton to balance out the neurotransmitter levels that impact emotion (this will be highly contingent on individual neurochemistry, don’t just grab something off the internet and feel deflated if it doesn’t take). It’s not like medication ever has to be an inevitable fallback.
Also, data if like you said you tend to mirror other people’s emotions, try surrounding yourself with more stable and positive/supportive people. It’s a hard life lesson but it’s true, some people just aren’t good for you, even if they’re not bad people themselves. A whole lot of your thinking & mood come from your environment and the people in it. That’s true for everyone.
I've been reading Power of Habit and a lot of what LFK is saying is seemingly touched upon in the book.
There's really three key things I got from it:
Focus on changing a keystone habit, even if it's a small win (For example, I am focusing on becoming a morning person and going to the gym right away when I wake up)
Surround yourself with people that can help you better yourself
Start believing that you can change
Your old habits will never go away (think of them as latent memory triggers), but you can pick up on cues that you know will lead to an undesired outcome, but the trick is to change your routine when you identify the cue.
There's really three key things I got from it:
Focus on changing a keystone habit, even if it's a small win (For example, I am focusing on becoming a morning person and going to the gym right away when I wake up)
Surround yourself with people that can help you better yourself
Start believing that you can change
Your old habits will never go away (think of them as latent memory triggers), but you can pick up on cues that you know will lead to an undesired outcome, but the trick is to change your routine when you identify the cue.
I dated a therapist that specialized in cognitive behavioural. It was fantastic for my mental health. Data try and see one
By s y Go To PostI tried to read that Power of Habit book then I discovered adderall.
you don't want to become to dependent on medication my guy
By s y Go To PostI tried to read that Power of Habit book then I discovered adderall.I think you out of anyone on here should read that book and try to get something out of it. It's a quick read.
By reilo Go To PostI've been reading Power of Habit and a lot of what LFK is saying is seemingly touched upon in the book.This is all solid advice. Basically every advance in psychology since Jung & Freud is predicated on an understanding of conditioning. When you have a thought 10x, a neuronal connection is formed that becomes a part of who you are and how you think in some way. When you have that thought pattern dozens of times it becomes procedural and often automatic (insert philosophical self-agency debate here).
There's really three key things I got from it:
Focus on changing a keystone habit, even if it's a small win (For example, I am focusing on becoming a morning person and going to the gym right away when I wake up)
Surround yourself with people that can help you better yourself
Start believing that you can change
Your old habits will never go away (think of them as latent memory triggers), but you can pick up on cues that you know will lead to an undesired outcome, but the trick is to change your routine when you identify the cue.
Ingrained behaviour can be a bitch to shake, and there’s a lot of stuff - especially with regard to intrinsic motivation, willpower and procrastination - that’s not understood anywhere near as well as self help experts want to pretend. A lot of things have biological influences or are conditioned very early in life.
But that doesn’t mean people don’t make major shifts in consciousness every day through sustained practice, that one’s pretty well established. And making one shift provides great positive support for another. I will say though that it has a lot to do with establishing a good support system, environment, and sense of realistic achievability. (This is why right wing bootstrap arguments against the poor or people stuck in systemic disadvantage are bs).
By s y Go To PostI wish I could be able to buy enough to be dependant. Bum ass drug dealers smhI’m not super pro-adderall, at the end of the day it’s basically just speed with a corporate trademark. But if it really made that big a difference for you without weird mood affecting side effects then you might be in the (much smaller than too many doctors think) part of the population who genuinely need it. You should take an ADHD test and try a prescription.
data, consider reading more books: https://www.newyorker.com/culture/cultural-comment/can-reading-make-you-happier
I appreciate all the advice. I'll look into the book. I'm trying to get some more meditating time in too.
Obviously it's not just her but she's emblematic of everything going on with me.
By livefromkyoto Go To PostAlso, data if like you said you tend to mirror other people’s emotions, try surrounding yourself with more stable and positive/supportive people. It’s a hard life lesson but it’s true, some people just aren’t good for you, even if they’re not bad people themselves. A whole lot of your thinking & mood come from your environment and the people in it. That’s true for everyone.I took a big step in this this week. I stopped chasing after the person who makes me feel most miserable. Granted she's also the one who makes me feel the most happy, but she's exhausted me emotionally and every woman I talked to about this particular relationship(who normally takes a womans side) has told me to get away from her.
Obviously it's not just her but she's emblematic of everything going on with me.
Please also see a professional, if you can. They can teach you techniques and strategies best suited to you.
By “data”I took a big step in this this week. I stopped chasing after the person who makes me feel most miserable. Granted she's also the one who makes me feel the most happy, but she's exhausted me emotionally and every woman I talked to about this particular relationship(who normally takes a womans side) has told me to get away from her.
Obviously it's not just her but she's emblematic of everything going on with me.
That’s awesome. It’s never easy, and I think everybody has been in that place with someone where you accept a lot of bad because it seems like the good is better than they’re going to get somewhere else. But boundary setting is always important, and in the end the net effect is that bad just ends up wearing you down despite the rest of it.
The meditation is also a great thing to keep up with. Constructive on so many levels.